In all honesty we are having a bit of a rough time with Little Miss at the moment. Sadly she spends a lot of her life, and most of her awake time, screaming, and in pain. There is something different about the cry of a baby in pain. Tired cries are a bit whiney, hungry a bit demanding, uncomfortable a bit angry, and in pain is, to my ears, very shrill. It is horrible and draining to hear for hours on end when nothing you do seems to help. It is hard enough during the day but in the early hours of the morning, when you have been attempting to sooth your child for 2-3 hours it becomes unbearable.
Thankfully I have a wonderfully supportive husband who takes turns with me when it becomes too much and when I feel myself at the end of my rope, and I do the same for him.
So what is causing all of this screaming? I wish I knew for certain. One explanation is colic. Monkey had colic and it is hellish but we have been through it once and hard as it is we know how best to cope and get through the next few months.
Sadly it doesn’t seem as simple as that though. Why? Because some days are much worse than others, and because on those days she does the oddest of poos. I don’t know how to describe them other than jelly like. They seem to be causing her a lot of pain to pass as they are almost solid! I did what we all do and took to google to see if I could find an explanation. We already thought that she was worse when I had had milk so I cut that out early on and after my research I decided to cut out all dairy and see whether there was any improvement.
Because we don’t really know what we are dealing with, or even if we are right we decided to go to the doctors. I am sad to say I don’t feel happy or confident about going to the doctors when I am pregnant, or with my children. Because I fear being judged, or worse, dismissed as an over anxious parent. When I was pregnant with Monkey I struggled terribly with reflux and saw a Dr who made me feel like a terrible human being for even asking if there was any medication I could take while pregnant (thankfully an appt with a much nicer Dr led to us finding a safe one). Then the Dr we saw about Monkey’s colic was very dismissive about it and couldn’t get us out the door fast enough.
So it was with trepidation that we headed to the Drs on Monday. Thankfully we had a lovely Dr, which was lucky as it is basically luck of the draw which Dr you get an appt with at our surgery, unless you book way in advance. But luckily we got one of the good ones and she really listened to us and wasn’t at all judgemental.
After quite a long chat she said she didn’t think it was a milk protein allergy but could be a temporary lactose intolerance. She also said it sounds to her like Little Miss has reflux. I had considered this but as she is never actually sick I thought I was starting to overreact so dismissed it. So we now have some infant Gaviscon to give her at every feed and we will see how that goes. It isn’t a miracle cure as I don’t think it will stop the colic, but hopefully the combination of this and cutting out all dairy will help, so we can all get some more sleep, we really need it!!
It’s a bit of a faff to use as I have to mix it up before every feed and then we are currently syringe-ing it into her mouth. the Dr suggested putting it in a bottle but I tried this and failed, she’s never had a bottle and it’s such a small amount that she just didn;t get any out! I am not looking forward to having to do this out and about as it is a of a faff. Having said that though I am happy to put up with a bit of a faff if it means more sleep and a happier baby!
It is now a couple of days since I wrote the above and all I can say is yippee! So far, so good. Last nightwas the best night we have had in weeks, and I got a total of about 7 hours sleep, rather than the 3 hours I had been averaging recently! She is also just so much calmer, which is lovely as we actually get to enjoy some of her awake time rather than dreading her waking up every time in fear of what was to come. She still has colic but it doesn’t seem as bad. A dose of our favourite colic remedy Colic Calm* now soothes her much quicker than before and there is just so much less screaming, hooray!
Fingers crossed this progress continues!
Our word for the week is Reflux