Part four in my series – Becoming a Stay at Home Mum Survival Kit. This week the theme is Creativity – and no, I don’t mean the arts and crafts side of creativity. You don’t have to be a budding artist or writer to be a good mummy (though there are many that are). But sometimes a pinch of creativity can really help as a parent.
What do I mean? I am talking diversionary tactics! Who knew you had to be a military strategist as a parent?
Picture this. I’m out on a walk with Monkey and he gets it in his little head that he wants to go down a different path to the one that I am leading him. I start walking one way, he another. His feet are planted firmly on the ground and he is on the verge of a meltdown. For my part I am on the verge of exasperation – I know that path leads to Grandma’s house (and the promise of biscuits), which is why he wants to go that way. I try to cajole, to persuade and nothing, just lots of pointing and shaking of his head.
What to do? The battle is about to commence. There’s a famous quote from the Japanese Military Strategist Sun Tzu:
“For to win one hundred victories in one hundred battles is not the acme of skill. To subdue the enemy without fighting is the acme of skill.”
It’s time to get a bit creative. I look around and see a tree and I am off to hide behind it. Thankfully Monkey loves a bit of hide and seek and he soon is running to find me with a huge grin on his face, I jump out and raaa! Then I am on to the next tree, and so on, you get the idea. Wahoo! Victory without any blood (or tears) being shed!
There isn’t always a tree about which is why I have to be creative to find something to distract him. He really is a stubborn little soul though and some times are harder than others, the same thing doesn’t work every time. So as a mummy you have to think on your feet and be a bit creative. Sometimes I try and persuade him to chase his ball and give it a good kick, other times I tempt him to come with me with the promise of watching the cars and buses from the top of the pedestrian bridge near our house.
It doesn’t always work though, no matter how creative you try to be! The other day I tried to pretend that Postman Pat was eating and enjoying the dinner that Monkey had turned his nose up at… he laughed and thought it was funny but it certainly didn’t make him want to eat his dinner! Boo 🙁 haha ah well, you win some, you lose some!
A bit of creativity can help make your little one feel better when they are hurt or scared too. A friend’s little girl bumped herself coming down the slide and it must have hurt as she was really unhappy. Her clever mummy then announced that a fairy had come and given her some magic cream to make it feel better. She pretended to dab it on and her little girl instantly felt better. It’s amazing the power their imaginations have!
I also find you have to be quite creative when it comes to play ideas and keeping little ones entertained and to help develop those skills. The internet of course is a wonderful place to help find these activities as there are lots of mummies out there who are far more creative than I am! I have found all sorts of things that I would never have come up with on my own, such as Playing with Hair Rollers, Threading cheerios onto Spaghetti, and Ice Cube Painting to name a few!
Being creative can also help with the financial side of parenting, as raising kids can be really expensive! Whether it is using household objects as toys, rummaging in the sales, or bargain hunting on ebay or at car boot sales, using your imagination can help when things get a bit tight.
I have realised that there are so many times that a little bit of creativity can massively help as a parent. Creativity really can be the key to keeping your little ones (and you) happy 🙂
What Creative gems can you share? Any diversionary tactics that work with your little ones to avert disaster (or tantrums)? Any magic remedies to fix a boo boo?
If you liked this post, why not have a look at the other posts in the survival kit: Perspective, Confidence and Resilience
So true! A mummy’s kiss always fixes any injuries here and food offerings always diverts with my pair – they are greedy little things! And I don’t think you can every go wrong when the ‘tickle monster’ arrives’ – they forget everything else then and just giggle!
Ha ha of course the tickle monster! A very good example haha! 🙂
Distraction, distraction, distraction. The key to surviving the toddler years! Thanks so much for sharing with the pin it party. 🙂
Oooh yes, so true! No problem, thanks for hosting! 🙂 Xx
Oh boy I remember the toddler years well, and you’re so right about that creativity. I never realised how creative I could be until I had my boys. Little Prince is almost 5 now and still sometimes needs his creative mum – a couple of weekends ago he lost his Toy Story character and we couldn’t find it. He was so upset, until I told him that the character must have been playing hide and seek with the other toys (like in the movie) and none of them had found him yet. He was the winner of the game.
This made him very happy and luckily I found the character while he was at school so promptly laid him on Little Prince’s bed. He was rather pleased when he got home. 🙂
Ha ha that is a brilliant example of creativity! Thank goodness you found it! Phew 🙂
A Mums kiss does have magical qualities, I’m sure of it. Great post, and thanks so much for linking up to my Mad Mid-Week Blog hop! xx
Very good idea! Many mums are making this transition and its mental trying to find a way to stay sane and entertain little ones :0) As I look at your ideas I’m kicking myself for getting rid of my hair rollers. Never thought to let the kids play with them :0)
It is so hard to stay sane and entertain the little ones at the same time, you are totally right! Haha I know, who knew rollers had a much better use than curling hair?! 🙂
This is so, so true! I have done this MANY a time as a Mum 🙂 Thank you for linking to PoCoLo x
Who knew we were all so creative? haha 🙂 xx
I nodded along reading this – I think we have all been there at some point! I often have to make up songs, do funny dances and pretend to chase an imaginary cat down the road just to get my kids to walk in that direction. The things we do lol.
Glad it’s not just me lol, the things we do as parents!! xx
So true, we have to be creative, never more so with kids! Loved this! Thanks for linking up to #brilliantblogposts
Thanks lovely, we really really do! Pleasure and thanks for hosting! 🙂 xx