I feel a real need to write this post, to record how I feel for the future. Because at the moment, I feel so incredibly lucky and incredibly grateful for all that we have. I am also an incredibly hormonal pregnant woman today and keep crying so I need to get some feelings out of my head and down on paper.
I know exactly why I feel like this. Some of my closest friends are having really rough times at the moment. I hate, literally hate seeing them suffer and feel so lucky for our simple little life at the moment.
I don’t want to go into too many details but other people’s lives, as it really isn’t fair. One of my friends, my closest friend in fact, is going through such a terrible time with her health. I have mentioned her briefly before and again won’t go into details, but things are really rough for her at the moment. She has now had months of the unknown, of pain, of confusion, of misery and the prospect of possibly worse to come. Through it all she has been so amazing and coped far better than I think I would have, but it really is starting to take it’s toll on her. I want to do something to help her but I feel so powerless to do so.
All I want is to be able to take the pain away, but I can’t. All I can do is be there to support her and help her as much as I can. I wish that felt like enough, but it doesn’t. The treatment she is on at the moment seems to be helping and all we can hope is that it continues to do so, as the treatment options should this not work, are risky and could negatively affect her for the rest of her life. She’s only 25. How do you deal with that? I wish I knew.
Another friend has just found that a close relative has the dreaded C. They are hopeful that things will turn out well but that doesn’t make it any less horrible to experience. I know this because my Mum had something very similar about 7 years ago. Thankfully she came through it ok but the experience was pretty traumatic for everyone and again I wish I could take this away so my friend and her family don’t have to experience it, but again all I can do is support her.
Another friend has been treated like rubbish by her boyfriend and he has just broken her heart for what I hope is the final time. She is an incredible woman and so I know she will find her way through this and move on to better things. I don’t know the guy well, but I really want to go and kick him in the nuts for the way he has treated her, she deserves so much better than this.
Times like this, when bad things happen to good people, make me feel like the world can be so horrible and that life can be senselessly hard. It’s not that I haven’t been through hard times too in the past. There was a couple of years where I remember thinking my life was being scripted for a soap opera. A failed engagement, multiple suicide attempts (not mine) resulting in an eventual suicide. I can’t begin to convey the horror of that time so I won’t try, any attempt to do so would leave me a blubbering wreck. Betrayal by friends, a complete career change as I felt so lost in my life. Oh yes, I have had difficult times. Thankfully those times are well and truly in the past.
My life now could not be more different and I know how lucky I am. I have a husband who I adore, and who amazingly adores me. We have an absolutely wonderful darling little boy who fills my heart with happiness every single day. He drives me bonkers at times too but I couldn’t love him more. We are even more lucky in that we have been blessed enough to get pregnant for a second time, and now we find it is a little girl to join our family. We have an incredibly lovely and supportive family around us who we see really often, and we have some truly amazing friends. I couldn’t feel more grateful than I do.
Life isn’t perfect of course, as perfect doesn’t exist. I have my pelvis problems, hubby has a bad back and a stressful job which can join forces to cause him lots of pain sometimes. We have family members battling or living with health problems and other personal issues. But, on the whole, and through this we remain a pretty happy bunch and Monkey is so lucky to grow up surrounded by so much love and happiness. So yes sometimes I moan about my pelvis and about feeling tired, or get down about daft things such as my blog stats (eye roll), let’s face it I am only human. But in comparison to how things could be I am so unbelievably grateful.
I guess what I am getting at is that the pain and upset that my friends are going through are reminding me how hard life can be, and how lucky I am. And yes I do believe it is luck. Yes you can make good things happen in your life by a positive attitude and by working hard to achieve something. But there is huge elements of life that we have absolutely no control over and that seem to me to be luck of the draw.
I worry for my friends and what they are going through right now. I also worry for us, that one day our happy bubble will burst and we will experience dark times. But I try, very hard, not to waste time worrying about things I have no control over. So I will continue to make the most of our happy little life. I will try and support my friends in any way that I can, and hope that there are better times ahead for them, and for all of us.
Oh my, what an extremely touching post. Firstly I can relate to the pregnant hormones flowing which make you tearful, however you rightly so feel emotional with all of that going on around you. I too consider myself very lucky to have what I have, good health, My loving family etc. My thoughts are with your poorly friend, The C word is just pure evil.It truly does make us feel eternally grateful for what we have in comparison to less fortunate.
Take care and have a great weekend x #WotW
Thank you for the lovely comment, there is a lot going on and I almost feel guilty for being so lucky, but that is pointless really so just needed to express my feelings! You have a lovely weekend too 🙂 xx
What a beautiful lovely post 🙂 You sound like a lovely caring person and even though it may feel that you are not doing enough to help your friends I am sure that you being there for them is enough and means the world to them. #WotW
Thank you, I hope so, wish I could magic it all better but sadly I can’t 🙂 xx
Oh, this is all so hard, Caroline. It’s tough to see friends and family suffering, especially when you feel powerless to change anything, but you are clearly a great friend and support to them, that I’m sure you are helping. It can be easy to get wrapped up in worries and not spot things to be grateful for and to enjoy the little things, so I’m glad that you’re managing to do that. And my hopes are with you and yours x Thanks for sharing with #WotW
Thank you Jocelyn it’s not fun and there’s almost a guilt at feeling lucky at the moment, or worrying about petty things when they have big things going on, but me feeling miserable doesn’t make them any better so I just have to be as supportive as I can and hope for the best reall! xx
You sound like a wonderful friend and I know that your friends appreciate all your help and support at times like this. Lots of love to you all xx #wotw
Thank you that is very kind of you xx
What a touching post!
It’s so hard to see friends suffer! You sound like a great friend…
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Thank you that is lovely of you, I just wish I could take it all away, or help somehow, but sadly I can’t 🙁 xx
Your poor friends! I hope things improve for them all… I’m the same with my friends, I really feel their pain when they’re going through hard times 🙁 I’m sure they are glad they have a friend like you watching out for them xx #WotW
Thank you lovely, it is really rough on them at the moment and it’s horrible to see them struggle isn’t it? Life is just like that sometimes though I think, sadly! xx
Oh lovely lady. I am so sorry that there is bad news all around. It is best to focus on the positive but I know it is hard sometimes. You have lots of exciting things to look forward to and lots of love. As long as you’re there for people to have a cry too that’s all you can do. Lots of Love xxx
Thank you lovely, you’re absolutely right and all I can do is be here for them when they need me and hope for the best! xx
It is so hard to see friends and family suffering, but you are so right to stop and take a moment to remember how lucky you are and to appreciate it, we should all do that a bit more often. Not take things for granted. All you can do is be there for your friends and support them xx #WotW
Thank you lovely, it is really hard but it does make you stop and think it really does! xx
I always envy your relationship with your family and how they are ever present in Lil Monkey’s life. Your brother who always play with him and all your family members are so kind to him. I envy that as I am alone here and my son when he would meet people he is almost hungry for their attention. I am sorry that a lot of your friends are in bad situations. But I think that what you can do is give them some hope that theres hope by being like this, positive in spite of worries. #wotw
Thank you lovely, we are really lucky and it is important to remember that. It must be hard for you and your son but when he goes to school he will make lots of new friends and you should get to know some of their parents and hopefully things will get a little easier for you xx
What a lovely post. I try to enjoy the good times as they’ll be what keeps me going through the bad ones
Thank you and I think you have exactly the right attitude about it! xx
Ah, that powerless feeling when people you care for are going through awful times. I know just how you feel, and yes, you have to be thankful for what you have and hold your beloveds near. Thanks for linking this up to #AllAboutYou hon x
Thanks lovely, that is exactly how I have felt lately, not nice seeing people you care about suffer xx