My word of the week this week is operation. It could also have been apprehension as we have been apprehensive, nervous and well a bit scared you know what-less at time about this. While everyone keeps saying he will be fine and while I know they are right and logic tells me they are right, its hard not to worry when it is someone you love so much. There are risks associated with general anaesthetic and while yes most people are fine, I’m afraid I just don’t trust life to be kind and I am not näive or blasé enough to ever think “that won’t happen to us” because I know it could.
I also know there is no point dwelling on the risks and fears either. What will be will be and there is a much higher likelihood that he will be fine so all of that had basically been bottled and we have got on with life and looking after the kiddies while talking in practical terms about the operation.
I’m also nervous about his recovery and what it will mean for our life for a bit. I don’t think it will be terrible, and I think he will be on crutches for a few days and then steadily get back to normal…. But the unknown always makes me nervous. More so than ever now that there are 2 children to think about. When will he be able to be on his knees changing a pooey nappy? When will he be able to carry our girl downstairs? When will he be able to leap up and run to a child that has fallen and bashed themselves and is screaming? This happens more than once a day for both our clumsy children so when can he be in sole care of them again?
I feel so selfish too but although I am far more worried about him and his recovery and how much pain he will be in, I am also nervous for me. How much extra work am I going to have to do while he recovers? We share responsibilities, take it in turns to get up early with LM and both do the household chores. I’m nervous about how long he is going to be out of action for all of those things and, selfishly, how long I am going to have to do everything? I know many Mums cope either as single parents or because they have less helpful husbands, but I have always been very lucky with mine and the sharing of our responsibilities, and am still often shattered! I know in truth I will cope, because you just do in such situations, but I am nervous about it nonetheless.
This is basically just an outpouring of everything I am feeling on the morning of his op. Right now he is getting ready for his taxi to take him to the hospital as we felt that would be less stressful than waking the kids up and dragging them out at 6.45 in the morning!
Update. Hubs’ op went well and they repaired the torn cartilage in his knee (they weren’t sure if they would repair or remove it beforehand) and he is feeling good after the anaesthetic although a bit tired and his knee is definitely painful. The huge dressing is very much limiting his movement and while he is ok to put weight on his knee he is quite slow on his crutches. I was able to pick him up by 1pm which was great and as I write he is in bed hopefully having a snooze. He needs quite a bit of help at the moment and as I said, his knee is really causing him some pain.
We already had a very excited LM try and run to him for a cuddle at the hospital so it is definitely going to be interesting making sure the kids don’t cause him any more pain while he recovers.
As you can probably guess from reading the above, I was a bit of an emotional wreck this morning and the relief when he text to say he was coming round was immense. Yes the next few days and potentially weeks will be a challenge but we will manage of course we will. The apprehension is over and the recovery and getting on with things will now begin, which is why my word of the week is operation, not apprehension.
Ahh bless you, I think I would feel exactly the same without a doubt! Hope his recovery goes ok and if need anything let me know! 🙂 🙂 xx
Aww get well soon hubby. I think any hospital trip makes you anxious but I do think having children makes that worse. Lots of love xx
So glad to hear that your hubby’s operation went well and wishing him a quick and smooth recovery. I would have felt very much the same in your shoes – it’s not selfish to also be concerned about how long you will have to be managing on your own, it’s a natural worry to have, as are all the worries about general anaesthetic. Good luck with managing everything while your hubby recovers and hope he is back on his feet again soon x
Glad he’s ok Hun! Phew! I remember being able to still do stuff…just sat on bum doing nappies and no kneeling!! Lol! I bet you were worried about being alone with it all but fingers crossed the recovery is speedy xx #wotw
So pleased all went well and he’s home safe and sound. My husband’s never been into hospital for anything, and I suspect I’d have similar thoughts to you. Here’s to a speedy recovery x Thanks for sharing with #WotW
I’m the worlds worst worrier so totally understand your fears. I’m so glad the op went well. I wish him a smooth recovery and I hope you are OK handling the kids on your own. I know how tiring I get even with all of Darren’s help #WotW
Sending love and hugs! I hope your hubby is back up and about soon!
I’m so glad everything went OK x
So glad to hear Hubby is back home and recovering well. I can’t imagine what it must be like to have your partner in hospital, but I would want to ask the questions and thing the same things as you did – coping on your own with the children as well as the fear of the operation is enough to send you into panic mode,
Hope he gets well soon
x
So glad to hear everything went well, wishing him a speedy recovery. I think all the feelings and thoughts you have had are perfectly normal . #WotW
Hi Caroline, operation is a far better word than apprehension, but apprehension is totally normal. My sister and husband have had to have big ops this week and it has been (and still is) a stressful time for everyone.
I’m glad to hear that your husbands surgery went well and I’m sure he’ll be back to helping you before you know it!
xx
Oh my I hope that he soon recovers from the operation. Both my hubby and I share responsibilities too so I understand your feelings. #WotW
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I can understand how worrying the idea of the operation was for you so I’m really pleased to hear that it went well and things are, presumably, slowly but surely getting back to normal. You may just have to get to grips with the single parent ‘good enough’ parenting and home-keeping attitude to life! I’m currently teaching JJ to get his own breakfast and letting EJ crawl into bed with me if he’s up early. With no one to take turns with in the getting up early stakes, it’s my version of a lie-in 🙂 Thanks for linking up with #thetruthabout this week Caroline Xx (Get well soon Hubs!)
Oh, so glad to hear that he’s okay. Here’s hoping the recovery time doesn’t get to you too much Caroline. My hubby had acute appendicitis last year and hearing the nurse tell me over the phone that he had come round was beyond immense relief, as I know you will understand from reading this post! #truthabout