When you talk to mums and mums to be about maternity wear there seems to be a difference of opinion. On the one hand, some mums see maternity wear as a necessity, as a way to embrace your growing bump and an aspect of pregnancy to enjoy. On the other end of the spectrum, some mums see it is a bit of a waste of money. You are only pregnant for such a short time so why spend too much money on clothes you won’t wear afterwards?
During my first pregnancy I was leaning towards the latter opinion. I did buy some maternity clothes of course, I needed them to clothe my growing body, but I didn’t buy a lot. What I did buy was all basics, jeans, some maternity t-shirts and a couple of maternity shirts. Plus one maxi dress as we had a few weddings to go to that year
This time though I have really struggled. I assumed that as I had these basics that I wouldn’t really need to buy much, if anything, second time around. But instead, I have bought more maternity clothes than I did first time round!
A lot of this is to do with the season. I haven’t been pregnant in the summer before and it makes a difference! Last time I managed with some of my normal baggier clothes and jumpers until really late on, and I may have mentioned (once or twice ;)) that I felt basically rubbish throughout my first pregnancy, and I guess in many ways that overwhelmed much caring about style or how I looked. This time I am so hot I need vests and shorts, but of course none of my pre-pregnancy ones fit me, at all, so I have needed to buy more.
Plus, I do care more about how I look this time. I am not 100% enjoying pregnancy, believe me I know how lucky I am but I get so frustrated by not being able to do things that are normally simple. I am in pain pretty much all of the time now which limits what I can do, and I’m just tired. But I am by no means as exhausted and zombie-like as I was first time round… and I guess that maybe I want to at least feel like I look nice. I want to feel comfortable in what I am wearing. So yes, my attitude towards maternity clothes has changed.
I have written in the past about how I can be a bit tight, I really don’t like spending money, so it’s not like I am going crazy or anything. Much of my maternity wear comes from New Look, as I find they fit well and are also pretty cheap, but I also have a few bits from H&M, ASOS & Jojo Maman Bebe. I bought some lovely things in the sales a couple of weeks ago which has enhanced my wardrobe a lot! I was getting fed up of rotating the same 5 vests as I have found maternity dresses with leggings too hot most days. plus it meant a lot more laundry, which I am not allowed to do because of bending and lifting and carrying and hubby was struggling to keep up!
I still don’t always feel I look that great, but at least I am comfortable and day to day that is what is most important. We are going to a wedding in a few weeks and I want to look nice for that, when I look back at pictures of me pregnant at weddings last time I think I look awful so I am really going to make an effort this time! I have ordered some gorgeous maternity dresses from Tiffany Rose and Seraphine… yep I am pushing the boat out a bit! I am excited to try them on so I really I hope I find one I like and that makes me feel attractive, definitely not a regular feeling right now so fingers crossed.
On the whole though, while I guess the thrifty/tight side of me does still feel like maternity clothes are a bit of a waste of money as you have them for a short time… I am definitely coming round to the fact that they are a bit of a necessity. Partly for reasons of comfort and practicality, but also because they can make you feel good about yourself at a time when it isn’t always easy to. And feeling happy in yourself is so important.
What do you think? Is maternity wear a luxury or a necessity?