On Friday morning hubby and I left the house at about 8.15am and headed off to Hereford for a wedding. Monkey? Monkey stayed at home, in the care of his Nanny & Pops! This was quite a big deal for us. Before we had Monkey and when he was a tiny baby we had grand ideas about leaving him with the grandparents fairly regularly so he would get used to it from a young age and it wouldn’t be a big deal.
In reality things didn’t quite work out as we planned (when does it ever, with babies?). Colic didn’t help matters and I always found leaving him behind difficult when breastfeeding – having to express extra milk before the event, trying to ensure he would drink out of bottles, having to find somewhere quiet to express your engorged boobs while at an event (trying not to get any on your fancy outfit) to relieve the pain. Not simple or stress free, in my personal opinion. We did manage a couple of days like this but didn’t actually have any events or plans far away, requiring an overnight stay, when he was very little so always came home for the night.
We tried as he was a bit older and he did stay away for the night at about 11 months old, as we had a party for my 30th birthday. Unfortunately things didn’t go well and hubby had to disappear off to help Nanny and Pops and calm a baby having a meltdown. He did leave Monkey there for the rest of the night but Nanny & Pops bless them were a bit scared off by this (I can’t blame them) and we all decided we would wait until he was a bit older before trying again.
Again though we really haven’t had any events since that have needed both of us to be away from him. Hubby and I have both had nights away since then but the other parent has always been able to stay home with Monkey. We have had evenings out together but always come home again that night. Not so this time though, as we were both determined to go to this wedding, and let’s face it, Monkey is a lot older than he was the last time we tried and so we hoped for the best, but it has been a big step for all of us.
Thankfully Monkey has been getting more and more independent lately (fantastic timing!!) and has been happily spending time with Nanny & Pops during the day and we hoped he would take it in his stride. And that is exactly what he did. We told him what was going to happen a few times in the days before, and he seemed pretty ok about it. The day came and he waved us off with a bye Mummy, bye Daddy and continued playing with his Nanny & Pops.
By all accounts he barely noted our absence and had a lovely time with Nanny & Pops. They went to a nearby country park, rode the train, fed the ducks and had a whale of a time. He napped well, was a good boy at bath and bedtime (not always guaranteed, even with us) and apparently they heard him say to himself at bedtime (through the monitor) “Daddy Home Soon.” (Note that Mummy never even got a mention lol!) And that was it!
We came home around 1pm the next day and they had had another lovely day out. He was happy to see us but was still playing with his Nanny & Pops a lot while we chatted about how our days had been. He certainly hasn’t been acting any differently since we came home either so we can safely say it went off without a hitch! Yay!! My parents loved it too and kept saying they had thoroughly enjoyed themselves. I was thanking my Mum profusely as I was so grateful and relieved it had gone well, and she “I know we have done you a favour but we loved every minute and can’t wait to do it again!”
Phew! Though it does amuse me slightly that we have overcome this hurdle with him…. right before baby no.2 arrives. So sadly it doesn’t mean lots of relaxing weekends off for hubby and I, not for a while anyway!